What bible says about dating
One of the great things about Boundless is that the community here is, within the confines of a clear and evangelical understanding of the Gospel, often pretty diverse in terms of the specific recommendations and approaches to dating represented by various authors.So if you are a regular and thorough Boundless reader, you’ve had a lot to think about!And the story of Ruth and Boaz is not an example of a woman “initiating” the equivalent of a modern dating relationship.) So where does all that leave us?Does the fact that the Bible has nothing explicit to say about dating mean that it has nothing practical or authoritative to us about how to conduct a dating relationship?
So to take one of my examples above, the story of Jacob and Rachel is found in Genesis, a historical narrative.Second Timothy -17 teaches us that “[a]ll Scripture is breathed out by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for training in righteousness, that the man of God may be complete, equipped for every good work.” That teaching, reproof and correction may be only at the level of broad principles in some areas of life (like dating), but it will be there nonetheless.How can we search Scripture on a topic that may be only indirectly addressed in the Bible (or evaluate what someone else has written on such a topic) without either being overly dismissive on the one hand or inappropriately “proof-texting” on the other?The orthodox, uncontroversial interpretation of this language is that it instructs men and women not to relate in ways that arouse or encourage sexual desire or a high, unique level of intimacy until it is appropriate (i.e., within the context of marriage illustrated in the book).Similarly, 1 Thessalonians 4:1-8 warns us that we are to abstain from sexual immorality and to use our bodies in holiness and honor rather than lust, and that we should not “transgress or wrong” one another in these matters.
There may be some truth in that in some sense, but they are even more fundamentally about marriage relationship — and about positively loving our single brothers and sisters in Christ in a way that prioritizes one another’s spiritual good (an ethic with which Scripture is deeply concerned).