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She’d just gotten into grad school when she met a guy.After a few happy months, he asked her not to move and she agreed to defer her acceptance.So, what: You have to choose between your goals and a BF? Although guys’ attraction to girl power is more layered than you think, it is possible to find a partner who will support you. That same survey found that 87 percent of men say they’d be with a woman who made more than they did and nearly 90 percent wouldn’t mind if she were more educated. Jesse B., 33, a digital strategist, has been there.He is supportive of his female friends’ dreams and sees himself settling down with a career type someday. “It’s intimidating when a woman is beautiful and successful and has her shit together,” he says. What I want in my head and what I go for are not usually aligned.” For Jesse and guys like him, in-the-moment feelings of emasculation are overriding their stated dating preferences, says psychologist Lora Park, Ph D, lead researcher of that University at Buffalo study.In a related study, when single female students were placed in groups with other women, they admitted wanting high-paying, high-powered jobs. When it comes to who men ask out, the research looks different.But in groups with single men, these women were more likely to say they wanted a family-friendly job: lower paying but more flexible. In Match.com’s 2017 Singles in America survey, men marked "entrepreneur" as the sexiest career a woman can have. Cohen, Ph D, and Karen Wilson, Ph D, as men’s academic motivation rises, so does their desire for a smart partner. A series of experiments at the University at Buffalo, for example, discovered that while men are turned on by the idea of intelligent women, the concept is tougher to swallow in practice — in fact, if a girl outperforms a guy on a test, he’ll express less romantic interest.They can perceive successful women as a threat to their career goals.Or a man’s subconscious might tell him he can’t handle dating today’s super-capable, financially independent girl boss, says David Buss, Ph D, an evolutionary psychologist at the University of Texas at Austin.
School the men in your life who are still judging dates by outdated biases.
Next, when you’re on the first few dates, look for evidence that this is a person who will cheer you on, suggests Susan Walsh, dating expert and founder of Hooking Up Smart.
Most women fail to evaluate this early on but it’s crucial if you want to sniff out someone who’s only saying he supports you.
Not to let guys off the hook but much of this stuff is deeply ingrained.
Evolutionary behavior and traditional gender roles have primed dudes to be competitive and establish themselves as breadwinners.
“He even told me I was overpaid.” He confessed that he felt emasculated by her career, and later, while she was on a work trip, he cheated on her. But as they strive for success, they’re hitting a snag.