Psychology dating advice
For example: If you do this over time your partner will soon realize there is one person on the planet who truly understands them: – you!
Start by learning more about their likes and dislikes.Sometimes volatile people doubt their ability (or anyone else’s) to do this. Then, when you catch up at the end of the day remember to ask questions about how it went. Show that you are more interested in keeping up with the events in their life than the Kardashians.And when they answer you make sure you listen as if nothing else matters.They just got a promotion at work or passed an exam. In Positive Psychology the term ‘capitalising’ is used to describe listening actively and constructively to someone’s happy news. Try this: Next time your partner has a good news story say…We might call it “listening generously,” that is, allowing the spotlight to shine on the other person. As an example, a colleague of mine recently told me about a minor drama.
Chris Peterson famously said ‘other people matter (2012).’ And yes, I understand your partner leaves their towel on the floor, watches tedious reality TV, wastes money, snores, embarrasses you in public, and thinks your family members are morons (be honest, they are).