My daughter is dating a manipulator
Psychological manipulation can be defined as the exercise of undue influence through mental distortion and emotional exploitation, with the intention to seize power, control, benefits and/or privileges at the victim’s expense.
It is important to distinguish healthy social influence from psychological manipulation.
Some grown-ups use this tactic as well when they have something to hide, or obligation they wish to avoid. Also, promises of promotion or other job opportunities, etc.?
I am dealing with a boss who I think it trying to manipulate me.
I question his sincerity, and I think he can tell that I am not eating up his flattery, I just tell him thank you, but do not show an emotional reaction, but he still keeps trying to do it and it makes me feel uncomfortable, as it's insulting that he should think he needs to flatter me to get me to do well in my work.
I've also been observing another female coworker who is manipulatiing a female supervisor by doing small favors for her and she is the supervisor's pet!
Significantly, the manipulator focuses on the negative without providing genuine and constructive solutions, or offering meaningful ways to help. The Silent Treatment By deliberately not responding to your reasonable calls, text messages, emails, or other inquiries, the manipulator presumes power by making you wait, and intends to place doubt and uncertainty in your mind. Great article, I saw lots of these points in some people I knew in the past and some in the present. You're article is well written and was very insightful! I'm definitely guilty if some of these things thinking I was doing what is "right" but in reality I too have been a manipulator....
The silent treatment is a head game where silence is used as a form of leverage. Pretend Ignorance This is the classic “playing dumb” tactic. I was the master at giving out round trip tickets to a land called "guilt" using tears, blame, and victimization to get my way It takes guts to see these traits in ourselves and admit to them.
I also think that this type of manipulation is much more stealthy than negative manipulation. It's frustrating when we can see it but others cannot!
Finally, some family members have finally started to see them for what they are.
However, at almost 35 years old, the damage has already been done.
The manipulator deliberately creates an imbalance of power, and exploits the victim to serve his or her agenda. Overwhelm You with Facts and Statistics Some individuals enjoy “intellectual bullying” by presuming to be the expert and most knowledgeable in certain areas.
Below is a list of fourteen “tricks” manipulative people often use to coerce others into a position of disadvantage, with references from by books “How to Successfully Handle Manipulative People” and “A Practical Guide for Manipulators to Change Towards the Higher Self”. They take advantage of you by imposing alleged facts, statistics, and other data you may know little about.
I've learned that the most manipulative people are the ones who use flattery and kissing up as their technique and I find it creepy, because it seems to work on so many people, especially ON those who use negative manipulation (as stated in your article above)! Both of my parents have been using most of these tactics against me for most of my life.