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Before I go any further, I know I’ll probably get comments from people claiming I’m politically incorrect/offensive/judgemental/rude etc for using the title ‘how fat guys can be attractive’, and who will therefore assume those things about me before fully reading this article or fully watching the associated video above. I used it because ‘how fat guys can be attractive’ was one of the top auto-complete search terms on Google (try it!
), which suggests to me that lots of overweight guys must be searching for help in this area, and this should hopefully make this article and video easier for them to find.
Before we get too far into this, the problematic nature of the fat suit still applies – we have plenty of credible reports from actual fat women about what it’s like to be fat and date on the internet, and we should be careful about putting more stock in the reports of thin people pretending to be fat than the actual experiences of fat people. When I broke the cardinal rule of being fat on the internet and read the comments, the most common justification for the men’s behavior was that the women lied.
One man compared it to being “breach of contract” which I think is pretty telling – the idea that how women look is a contract for services that they should not breach and that a reasonable response to the breach of that contract is a complete suspension of basic human decency.
), but when I was dating I always considered this a good weed-out tool.
This was his (paraphrased) question: “I’m not looking for a woman my size, but to get someone who’s probably not my physicality, but still attractiveness, but this is me at the end of the day, I’m not gonna go to the gym, I’m not going to try…I feel this is me.
As I said at the top of this article, the thought process to arrive at the conclusion that ‘fat guys are not attractive’ is the EXACT same thought process that a guy who believes he’s not rich enough, or not good looking enough, or not tall enough, or not the right racial background and so on goes through to arrive at their own limiting conclusions. Above is a simple diagram that explains how our thoughts and our beliefs create our life experience. Let me explain…(we gotta get a little nerdy here so you can understand, but I promise it’s worth it so keep reading)…
We actually use this same mental process when we happy with our results. Our mind has an unconscious mechanism (which means we don’t even realise we are doing it!
[Edit: Added to address some comments] I think it’s interesting to discuss what constitutes “lying” about one’s appearance.
If my picture showed me as a brunette but I showed up for the date blonde would that be a “breach of contract?
Recently a site dedicated to “the fine art of picking up girls” decided to see what happens when men and women get dates online using pictures of them thin, and then show up at the date with fat suits on.